Mixing Energy Work and BDSM: Kinksters Say It’s Possible
Can you use BDSM as a healing force that improves sex, relationships, and wellbeing? Based on what we’ve seen, kinksters from around the world are starting to blend energy work with their scenes and fetishes. How does that work? What are the benefits of spiritual BDSM? Here’s what you need to know about mixing energy work and BDSM!
The Face of BDSM
On the surface, BDSM looks violent, rough, and even degrading. A swift lash of a leather whip can leave a red mark. Also, wax play can burn your skin, and rough anal sex with rope bondage can leave you sore for days. While images of slaves begging their masters for mercy as they worship their sexual organs are usually considered bizarre or unnatural in our society, BDSM is still immensely popular worldwide. It allows individuals to reach a different type of pleasure compared to conventional sex.
Basically, BDSM revolves around the interplay of submission and dominance. The acronym stands for Bondage, Dominance, Submission, and Masochism. However, while its name highlights the giving and receiving of pain, the sexual practice is actually much broader than that.
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Overall, BDSM is mutually pleasurable and cooperative. It requires a submissive to allow the dominant to control them. The transfer of power is a gift in a consensual arrangement. This allows two or more people to fulfill their darkest fantasies. Also, BDSM scenes should occur in controlled environments with formal agreements and set rules. That ensures the safety of both partners.
Yet, aside from physical and mental pleasures that we can gain from control, humiliation, torture, and other BDSM elements, we tend to overlook the spiritual. In fact, BDSM can also be a highly dynamic spiritual practice. It can offer multiple ways of channeling and exchanging energy with your partner. And this is something that you won’t see in “50 Shades.” It also allows you to transcend reality and place the mind in a trance-like state, which is how pain and pleasure can become intoxicating. That’s why some believe BDSM can be mixed with energy work to give it a spiritual element.
Energy Work and BDSM
Many new-age practitioners believe that our world is made up of energy. This energy can be used to heal and revitalize an individual. What’s more, everyone releases it. Their energy impacts other people, regardless of if it’s a spiritual rush from sex or a toxic down that occurs after an argument with a rude boss.
BDSM Spirituality
With energy work, the aim is to manipulate and yield that power toward a common goal. Mistress Starla, a dominatrix from California, believes that the spiritual principles of energy work are incredibly similar to BDSM.
She notes: “A BDSM act expresses energy exchange, unlike anything I’ve ever seen before. If the Dom and the slave willingly work to achieve a goal, their energies line up and create a special connection. The two sides feed off each other’s energies, which is when we can try all kinds of energy work and exercises to recharge our chakras, have a massive full-body orgasm, and much more!”
Many kinksters and spiritual healers are starting to incorporate energy play in their BDSM sessions. A Goddess called Vitrix Oracle performs an unusual kind of chakra energy play in Canada. Namely, her “ankhing” ritual uses the ankh, aka the “breath of life” symbol for the ancient Egyptians. Vitrix Oracle practices BDSM play together with ankhing. The goal is to get close to orgasm. Then, the Oracle uses the ankh to pull the energy from her sacral and throat chakras and release it into her sub’s root chakras. The result, according to Vitrix Oracle, is a thunderous orgasm. Two people can share it not only physically but also energetically.
There are multiple other forms of spiritual BDSM. That includes the use of psi-balls on erogenous zones. Many kinksters use these energy balls to trigger, intensify, prolong, and even prevent orgasms. It’s also possible to use healing crystals, muscle tension/relaxation techniques, hypnosis, and various other methods.
What Are the Benefits of Energy Work Paired With BDSM
Kinksters who practice energy play in BDSM mostly claim that it puts focus on positive and negative energy. For example, Doms can release their negative energy while feeding off their sub’s positive energy. Also, there are activities that fill you with energy (e.g., orgasms, being in control). Conversely, others can drain you of it (i.e., being frightened, hurt, or serving someone).
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One of the main goals of BDSM spirituality is to find a balance between good and bad energy. Some of the advantages of energy work include personal or mutual healing, as well as raising your intimacy levels. What’s more, it can get you in touch with the power of the universe. Also, energy work can allow you to achieve healthy power dynamics during your BDSM session as well as in your daily life and existing relationships. It can enhance your feelings during sex. It can elevate them to a whole different level! Any type of energy work can also benefit your mental and emotional state. On the surface, it can also allow you to experiment with and get pleasure from new techniques we’ve mentioned, such as psi-ball play.
However, there are also some downsides. Many healers warn that energy exchange could be dangerous if too much bad energy is released. For example, an extreme sadist could combine a spiritual ritual with a BDSM scene. Then, they could use the energy to manipulate their partner without any boundaries. That can damage the submissive mentally. That can seriously deplete their energy. Dominants can also focus too much on their negative energies. They can become addicted to making the submissive feel pathetic, weak, used, and hurt. It’s possible to avoid those pitfalls with open communication, proper aftercare techniques, meditation, or even energy healing techniques such as cord-cutting.
Final Thoughts
Incorporating some energy work into BDSM has many benefits, and it can get you in touch with the divine. As you’ve seen today, many kinksters are using energy play in BDSM to experience something truly profound. So charge your batteries, explore some energy techniques, and have fun!