BDSM: How to Train Your Slave

Just like any other kink or fetish, BDSM can sometimes get a bit confusing. From rules about this and that to the legality of it all, it’s hard to keep track of proper Dom/sub dynamics. But don’t worry, it’s not all that bad! Sometimes you just need a helping hand or two to clear things up.

Our article aims to help you make the most of your BDSM relationship. We’ll talk about the importance of safewords, as well as consent and other key factors you need to consider. So strap your latex suits and leather boots because — it’s time to get down and kinky.

The Importance of Sub Training

There’s no doubt that a kink like BDSM can make people think of a thin line between what’s acceptable and not. And it’s easy to understand why a layperson might confuse it with something dangerous and even illegal. However, if you make sure to go about it the right way, you’ll easily understand how the whole kink works.

The relationship dynamics involve a dominant and submissive partner. The first one calls the shots, degrades, and even punishes their slave. And for it to work the way it is meant, the submissive partner needs to understand his place in the grand scheme of things. Their role and subsequent behavior are as important as the Dom’s.

Firstly, such a relationship requires formal consent from both parties. It next leads to a training plan, a collar, and even an opening ritual of sorts. These three basics together form a basis for further steps such as physical, sexual, and attitude submission. So, it’s safe to say the question of how to train a sex slave is an overall thorough yet rewarding process.

First Things First

The first steps are always the hardest. No matter what you’re doing, it’s easy to get carried away and to blow the whole thing before you get the chance to experience the most of it. The same goes for BDSM slave training. Hence, agreeing and coming up with safe words must be first in line.

Consent is the pillar of any relationship, let alone a bondage one. Doing anything without it is both illegal and dangerous, so make sure you have it. There’s no point in doing something extreme if the person doesn’t agree to it. You’ll just waste your time without them enjoying the act as much as you do.

On the other hand, coming up with safe words will help both of you to make sure you don’t take things too far. Acts like these can often make a person forget it’s all a game and hurt their partner either physically or emotionally. So, sit down, break down your characters, and come up with a word or two that will ensure it all stays fun and worth trying again.

Agree on a Timeline

A Dom/sub relationship works best if you restrain it with time. You know, schedules, deadlines, and even homework. The point is to apply pressure on the sub and make them vulnerable to failure. To make them not want to disappoint their dominant partner. Otherwise, restrictions should apply.

The whole point is to make them learn that being good at keeping up gets them a hefty reward in the end. Of course, you can always bend the rules in your favor when you want to. It’s all part of the play. And in reality, it’s mostly what submissive people want. They want to feel desperate or even tricked.

What Slaves Need to Learn?

Namely, BDSM is a protocol kind of thing. All sorts of rules apply, and if one doesn’t meet them, the play doesn’t work. A good slave knows their posture, demeanor, and attitude. They understand titles, rules about speaking, and clothing options.

You see, having the right posture makes the deal so much more intense and interesting for both partners. It’s the same as attitude and demeanor. Without it, submission just isn’t complete and enjoyable enough. A sub doesn’t go around walking whenever they feel like it. They need to earn it and earn it well.

However, all this goes to waste if they don’t refer to their Dom with a proper title. Not only does it break the impression of actual dominance, but it also takes power away from them. But before they talk, they must know it’s acceptable to open their mouth. Maybe their attire doesn’t please their Dom. Maybe they don’t deserve it at all?

The Training

Similar to any other type of intimate relationship, when training a slave, it’s important to manage expectations while dealing with dominance and submission and other forms of BDSM. Having great ones doesn’t always work out the way people want them to. Hence, a quality dom knows how to deal with their sub’s dreams and fantasies. It’s a step by step game, and that’s the only way to play it.

Skill assessment is crucial in knowing how far one can go. And being honest about it will prove to help you get the best possible experience for both parties. There’s no point in pushing for something that won’t work. And if you’re sub’s stubborn about their wishes, you should give them a reality check. It’s like policing, you know.

On the other hand, DS is a reward-based power exchange. Both parties need to keep it like that, and the proper Dom must know when it’s adequate to give their peer the thing they crave for. It shouldn’t always work as a carrot and stick situation. Training them like that will help both parties for future endeavors that might seem more intense and over the top.

However, if they fail a task, consequences must apply. It’s not cruelty by any means. It’s a just and right way to handle a dom/sub relationship. Don’t allow them to have the thing they crave the most. Make them realize that failure isn’t an option. This way, they won’t dare fail their Dom ever again. And if they enjoy failure, reverse the process. Play a mind game if you have to. Just don’t go soft.